A hard decision

Hi everyone!

I have had to make a hard decision lately.

I am a mom, wife, minister’s wife, writer, song creator/performer, receptionist, house cleaner (paid), house cleaner (not paid), school oversee’er, child manager, child psychologist, blogger, and the list goes on from here. However, the blogging part has been laking. And rightfully so. I am jam-packed busy with all that I do.

Honesty can be tough, but necessary!

I am taking a break in some of my blogging. It means that, unfortunately, this blog was chosen to go–as it gets the least amount of traffic to it.

I hope you all understand!

One thing I did want to say, is that you can look forward to some great Mommy writing in the future. I am planning on taking the huge list of potential things for this blog and use it to write a non-fiction book containing everything I had planned for this wonderful blog. Stay tuned!

So, without further ado…

A demain! realitywriter.wordpress.com

Family Vacations, Cleaning, Miracles and more…

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We recently went on a short, two day family vacation for Spring Break.

We got a big room that accommodated all of us that had a kitchenette. With 7 people, five of which are children-That can be difficult. Plus, they had an awesome pool with a swirl slide and water park feel. Also, there was a hot breakfast included with waffles, sausages and everything! The area surrounding our hotel was beautiful. We planned our couple of days with ease in mind.

However, those eased minds became rattled shortly into our drive. The kids fought. All the way there: They screamed. They cried. They whined. And we checked in. Exhausted.

We thought the kids were just excited, it will be okay. It will get better. Once they see where we are staying, everything will be fine!

We desperately tried to encourage ourselves in the Lord.

It didn’t work.

They continued and so did we. My husband and I began arguing and I wanted to go back home.

But, would it change, I thought?

Probably not!

We were trapped. Nothing surrounding us to take our attention away or kept us busy and separate from each other. I was facing how our family functioned together. And, it was shocking!

That night, laying in our uncomfortable hotel bed, my husband and I had a heart-to-heart discussion. This had to change.

When life is busy at home, we can be clueless at the how well we are functioning as a family..or not functioning. We needed the peace of God in our family and we had to put some things into action.

During our conversation we realized a lot. Since starting public school, me getting a new job, his accident and now doctor appointments/physio, we have been too busy and don’t spend a lot of time together…as a family.

Many of these changes can’t be stopped. So, we planned to start implementing some crucial components to our daily lives. Some of these things were pushed aside due to our commitments and just couldn’t be ignored anymore.

We started sitting together as a family at dinner time…even if that meant more chores and cleaning for me…even if that meant only one meal! We were going to do it.

We took away all entertainment. No computer, no iPad for any of us–unless for research! We have kids in school, I am a writer and my husband is a Pastor–we need to research! But, no games or anything, etc. Even for parents! We are all effected by the rules…hence, accountability on all of us. They will have no excuses!

We got back home and started the new plan immediately.

It was like we were a new family. Peace finally started to come. Yes, they had their squabbles…but, not all day fighting, hitting, screaming, tattling, whining! Ahhhh!

Now, it feels like we are a family again. Even our prayers at the dinner table are more focused and participated in.

That is worth fighting for!

That is worth the extra inconveniences!

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My Cleaning Challenge has been pretty much, just a challenge all together.

My goals this year were to organize something each month. And though I got off to a great start, I have wavered due to new responsibilities. But, not all is lost and I have had a chance to do some things 😀

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I am trying to follow along with Sarah Mae’s challenge to 31 days of clean. Periodically, I will post what I have done to keep you updated as well. However, I have been terrible at it lol! I like to whip everything up in one day and have it look like a perfect house–even for a half an hour! Then, the kids can have at it. It doesn’t take long before it is a mess again, so I savour any second with my show room feel…even for a split second! Just saying!

Anywho, here is a before picture of one of my areas that desperately needed attending to. Like I mentioned before, I rearranged my work space. So, this unit I wanted for my office and not the kids area.

Here is the after pic:

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As a mother, I have seen my fair share of miracles.

Many of my children came from miracles. I will share some of these stories in the future. What I am gobsmacked with everyday though, is the fact that these mini miracles miraculously attract dirt wherever they go!

I mean seriously….How does this happen in one day??

In one section of the house only.

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Actually…in less than one day!!

It has to be a miracle haha..but, it is not.

However, I am so thankful for the mini miracles that make that mess 😀

Romans 12:18 

“If it be possible, as much as lies in you, live peaceably with all men.” KJV


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Make the most of your spring break!

Holiday’s in full swing and most families plan on short vacations, Disney Land stays or home stays and lawn care. I want to offer something a little different. It might seem odd as school is out for the time being and kids are loving the fact of no homework, no getting up early, no lunches to go and no confined spaces.

But, that doesn’t mean we take a break from reading!

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Reading to your children is the best thing you can offer them when you have the time. They need to hear your voice and feel your comfort. This is a great way to cuddle up and just chat. Talk about the parts of the story you loved, your kids loved. Laugh about the funny parts.

I think this is a great time to start a home bible study with your children. Often times we think church once a week is enough for them. But, we need to include bible reading daily. Scripture memory daily and most of all, your children need to see and hear you walking with God daily. What better way to read the Bible, then with your children as an example of what they too should be doing.

This is the book we are reading right now and LOVE it!!!

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Happy Holidays and Hopefully, Happy Reading!

Phone Company’s Must Love Moms!

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I am absolutely convinced that phone company’s LOVE moms!

I was just having a discussion with a very good friend of mine and couldn’t help but laugh when she told me she needed a new phone because she dropped hers. I asked where and giigled-knowing exactly what happened and yup! Truth be told, she dropped it in the sink!

To think of how many phones I have boughten over the years because I have dropped them into the dirty dishwater: Two hands in the soapy water, head cranked to the side, smiling, and cramping while insanely trying to multitask the slippery plastic against my slick hair. Then-whoops!

This doesn’t account for our wonderful helpers that are oh-so-willing to aide us in our phones doom.

Toddlers are great when it comes to laundry, they can pick up those articles that have fallen on the ground so mommy doesn’t have to bend over, etc.  But, they also are prone to helping mommy add extra clothes or items they feel need to be washed and not always does mommy pick up on what has been added to the ever growing wash cycle-lo and behold, it is the cell phone.

Milk and juice have made the acquaintance of our cell phones while parked on the counter by our lil mini helpers and the worst is when they scream, “bye-bye” from the bathroom and you here the toilet flush. Yes, that was the phone and pretend Grandparent swimming down the drain!

These little accidents have cost us a lot in recent years but, nothing is more valuable to me than my Saviour, my husband and my lil’ helpers. Life can be so materialistic if we allow it, or we can laugh about the cost of our modern life and truly value the best things this life has to offer!

Matthew 6:19

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:” KJV


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The Hard Path of Mothering With Purpose #2

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The Hard Path of Mothering with Purpose…

What is your Faith?

Faith can really make or break us.

It is the very start of our Christian walk-having faith that Jesus died and rose again to save our souls from sin and death-but, did you know it plays a major role in being a mother too? We walk by it everyday as a mother? How?

Everyday we set out on the task of mothering and our faced with obstacles and challenges. Ones that are easy, tiresome, scary and moderately hard. Many of these require our faith to get us through. Sometimes we aren’t seeing the results that we typically should see and we wonder if we make any difference, or if any change is really happening on the inside of our precious children. After all, we want to have faith they would make it in this crazy world!

Do we train-up in faith?

Our role is to train up. This also requires faith. To train, we instil: Skill, Knowledge, Capability, Productivity, Capacity and Performance. Training has a specific goal in mind. For us, this goal should be linked to our faith and as we instil these elements of raising our children. We hope that they will respond appropriately to them.

The bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 We are believing that after all of our hard work, diligence and perseverance through the pressed times, our work will pay off-in a sense-because our children will not depart from this training; this time of labour we have poured into them so that they CAN face the world beyond them! We are having faith, they will make it!

Who are we having faith in? Are children? Ourselves?

If I have faith in my children that, after all my hard work they would respond and do as they are told, I would have to fall over laughing! You know children. They are human. They have their own mind-set. They have their own sin nature and they don’t always do what they are told-Haha! I was one of them and can surely a-test to that 😀

If I have faith in me as their parent, I would have to also laugh. I am human too and have failed with being diligent. I have made mistakes. I have given in to my sin nature and know that I am not always a reliable source to follow.

Then who should we have faith in?

Jesus!

That sounds easy but, I can tell you that sometimes it is not and I fall back into trusting in my own strengths or relying on my children and their obedience alone. This will always fail me, but God never does!

Do we limit our faith?

I always jolt myself back to the scripture that says with a mustard seed of faith we can literally move mountains. I find that fascinating and sometimes (don’t judge 😉 unbelievable!

Oh, when I am desperate I set my faith up to that standard, but in my everyday life–with daily chores not getting done from disobedient children-with life rushing by, I have no time to breathe-with epic meltdowns in the grocery store, to the troubled teenager that wants to take their own life despite everything bit of love you have offered–I confess sometimes, I limit God in my faith!

I often wonder if the woman that was healed by Jesus from the flow of blood for 12 years limited her faith? This was such a significant miracle by Jesus that Mark, Luke and Matthew all noted about it in the gospels. I wonder if it could have been a larger leap of faith? She said to herself, “If only I could touch the hem of his clothing”. She did and He turned knowing faith made a difference and power left Jesus because she was indeed healed. This is a wonderful picture of faith in action. Even the centurion knew Jesus did not have to go and be there in present for his son to be healed and Jesus marvelled at his faith.

I wonder if this very woman said, “If only I believed in Jesus alone, I would be healed,” I am sure she would have still been healed. She had to see Him though and then she had to touch His hem. Are there stipulations in your prayers and faith that you have to see before God can do miracles?

Do we speak faith into our children?

I am very guilty of this and hence the need for it here! Do we foster faith in our children by speaking it into their lives? Despite what we are seeing do we still believe God can do miracles in our children’s lives? If so, do we speak it to them too?

So often I can be discouraged and speak the truth that only I see in the moment and the results only I see at that second. I forget God sees our future too and He sees what we can become, not who we are today! I need to see through God’s eyes too and speak faith over my children. When I pray, I need to pray for what they are becoming not always about how they are acting now.

God is they’re heavenly Father too and cares about them more than we will ever. Our faith needs to lie in how He sees them and what He knows will become of them in the future after we have laboured for Him with them.

Believing that the skills God has given us and what we put into them, will not be dismissed as they get older.
Believing that God can do great miracles still and in our everyday life, even with problems that are long withstanding and never seem to end.
Believing God cares for them more than we could ever and knows what is in store for the future of these precious souls. Believing and speaking that into their lives too!

Our faith needs to lie in Jesus and Him alone for He cares for us and our children.

Click here If you want to read the first of this series called, What is your Identity? 

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Are you Alone?
Hebrews 11:1
“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” KJV

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Spring Cleaning Challenge & Goal Accomplishments!

Spring Cleaning is underway here and as some of you know, last month I set up my goals for the year. One of them is to Organize a room each month.

Last month I got to organizing a whole room…well, re-organizing. I eneded up switching the entire room around. It worked better that way and I will have before/after pictures in another post coming soon. But, I also was cleaning and tidying up things that definitely needed it while re-doing the room. The one area that desperately needed organizing was my kids’ book shelf!

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Yes…this really needs help! So I took everything out… IMG_0738 And set aside piles of books and what order I would like them in. (Eg. Easy Readers, Chapter Books, Homeschooling Books, etc.) There was also a pile for purging all the ripped, damaged books!

Garbage :D

Garbage 😀

Then, I wiped it clean…it was very dusty 😦 I use my home made counter cleaner. I don’t like using anything to harsh for areas that kids will be playing. Here is the recipe to my cleaner.

Gotta get clean!

Gotta get clean!

There was a picture frame I had just got and the kids broke it by throwing a ball in the house, when they knew they shouldn’t. I think it was hanging up for less than 24hours…hence why I don’t normally buy anything nice for a house full of mainly boys! I glued the back back together and added it to the bookshelf when I moved around the room. That way it can’t fall too far down and I think it works perfect 😀 Here is the After Picture!

All Finished!

All Finished!

Organizing does not come naturally to me, you can read about that here. However, I LOVE how I feel when I do it! My kids love it too and my husband. It makes the home feel so much better and breathes an air of comfortable, easy and manageable…instead of stressed, cluttered and unmanaged! I thought this post was perfect along side of Sarah Mae’s Cleaning Challenge right now. She also cleaned her book shelf which seemed fitting that I did mine too. Find out more about her Challenge here!


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Goal Update…

FINANCIAL

  • Keep better records of personal banking
  • Work on better credit (due to a new roof addition of over 10 thousand dollars this kinda ruined it last year)  Got a new budget and that will start the process
  • Put $ aside for dental expenses and budget that into the main Budget. (With 7 mouths and 5 of them being children…this is a good idea) Started in the new budget
  • Maintain and keep better records for Business plans/Ads/Book Promotion/Book Development Processes and separate these better from personal accounts. Started separate accounts

BUSINESS

  • Continue to develop In the World but, not of it Blog Continuing
  • Write 24-30 Substantial Blog Posts 5 so far and new series coming 😀
  • Acquire 3-5 valid, true to the blog, things/products that I use/recommend personally, and qualifying Affiliates Got them and working on more
RealityWriter.Wordpress.com Blog & Author:
  • 15-20 Substantial Blog Posts 1 so far, but working on a new book series for email subscribers
  • Do research for 2 other Books in Que..
  • Begin writing for the two other books
  • Finish small finalizing ends for Facing The Grey half way there
  • Work with Editor in May
  • Get Ideas together for the Type-setting on Facing The Grey

MARRIAGE

  • Make compliments and notice husbands accomplishments (speak his love-language) Attempting this and trying to maintain this on a daily basis
  • Leave Love notes for him 2 or 3 times per month
  • Spend more quality time with him weekly, alone! We have been spending so much time together lately and it has been wonderful! …just wish it was the alone part too. Need more date-nights.

MOTHERING

  • Do fun things as a family 2-3 times per month Started lessons in music!
  • Help with homework/Bartons System at least 2 times per week This has been a serious challenge…
  • Go for regular walks 2 times per week with my youngest son Started running instead with him once per week
  • Read aloud the Bible 4 nights a week have done only 1x per week…
  • Read aloud 1 Chapter Book a month  Reading The Mouse With The Question Mark Tail!

EXECERICE

  • Go to a class Once per week Started Ballet lessons with my work
  • Go for walks 2 times per week with my youngest son 1x per week
  • Do more Gardening outside

HOUSE

  • Organize one room completely per month This month I did it 😀
  • Attempt to have dinners earlier by prepping food earlier and being more organized Thanks to Confident mom…will blog about this in a future post!

Now last but not least and almost forgot to add it in:

PERSONAL

  • Try to quit coffee (my health has really gone done hill and I think this may help) Down to one full cup per day!
  • Bake something once per week to learn and get better at it for kids’ lunches
  • Spend 1 hour per week to do nails, or have a bath
  • Schedule time everyday to do book writing Needs improvement in this area but got a lot of writing done!
  • Schedule time in to visit with a friend from church twice per month
  • Read 1 Fiction book a month
  • Start to read 1 non-fiction book a month The Dress Maker of Khair Khana. See my Book Review here!
  • Read and memorize scripture on motherhood This blog has really helped me in this area as each post has a scripture verse that pertains to our everyday life as a mom!
  • Spend 30 minutes in prayer/bible reading a day Needs Improvements!

How have you done on your goals so far this year? Are you taking up the Cleaning Challenge too? Don’t forget to sign up & not miss a post! Want to read more about these goals in my blog post…go here! 1 Corinthians 14:40 “Let all things be done decently and in order.” KJV


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